I visited LA once, as a child. I don’t have many specific memories of what I did or saw, but I do remember the feeling I got from people at the supermarket. There was this palpable desperation. I didn’t know how to describe it, but it filled me with revulsion and, at the same time, I couldn’t look away. Like seeing a mangled corpse. Desperate to make it, desperate to be famous, just desperate.

This week, the Hollywood Reporter’s exposé on Angelyne pulled me back to that feeling again. I couldn’t stop looking. I googled her and found this slightly terrifying documentary short.

I can’t make left or right of it all: it’s a rabbit hole. Don’t do an image search of her. She claims that she covers her face in public because she wants to charge $10k for pictures of her full face but the reality is that after a certain age, even the best plastic surgeon can only make you look like, well, an old lady who’s had a lot of work done. It’s probably too easy to dismiss her … persona … as a result of trauma or even intergenerational trauma, but it’s interesting nonetheless. What I find unsettling is that she’s a smart person playing at being a bimbo. I see the opposite all the time, but this, well, it’s an enigma. Probably how she intended it. The easiest way to part a man from his money?

Up Taipei 101 for free*

*Okay, it’s not really free, but at least you’re not paying just for the elevator ride.

You’re visiting Taipei with friends and they want to go up the Taipei 101. Cool. But the elevator ride is NT$600 (about $18 USD). What to do? You probably did a search for “Taipei 101 free” and found blog posts about the wonderful Starbucks on the 35th floor. This is another one of those blog posts, but with one bit of new information.

I did this search and got my information from Daniel Food Diary. The basic directions are:

1. Call the Starbucks for a reservation at least a day in advance at: +886 2 81010701
2. Be sure to write down the reservation number you are given over the phone, and bring it with you for your reservation.
3. Be in line ON TIME. Be first in line. They have changed the procedure and give numbered tickets. They let people in to the Starbucks according to this order, so whoever was first will get the best seat. This is a new procedure so you may see the opposite advice in other blogs posts from before the change in policy.

I recommend going around sunset, if possible.

Each person will be required to order at least NT$200 (about $6 USD) worth of Starbucks treats, but at least you get something other than an elevator ride for your money. The matcha cheesecake was good, but not a cheesecake. I recommend the rose latte (not pictured).


My longest fast

Also my first serious fast. I did one for 3 days in college because I wanted to prove a point to a friend (with no diagnosed medical problems) who was convinced she would pass out if she didn’t eat every 2-3 hours. I noticed then that after day 2, hunger went away. The same thing happened this time.

Day one was a normal day. I got hungry a few times, ignored it, and powered through. The hunger didn’t come back worse each time, it just came and went at about the same level. Apparently, if you exercise on day 1 and deplete your blood glucose, you start burning fat faster. I’ll try that next time. Day two must have been the beginning of ketosis because my mouth tasted bizarre, like fake sugar, and I was constantly thirsty. I still got hungry, but less so than on day one.

Days 3-6 were fantastic. I never have energy like that when I eat food. I felt more focused and clear-minded. I didn’t get groggy in the afternoons. I wasn’t hungry. I lost about 1.5-2 lbs a day throughout. This was mostly water weight. I’ve been off the fast now for nearly a week, but I haven’t regained all of the weight. I’m still 2-3 lbs lighter than when I started, which is about how much fat loss I had expected.

One question I do have about fasting to lower insulin resistance is how many times or how long the fasts have to be to show stable changes to the body’s set weight? Theoretically, the body has a set-point for weight which gets nudged higher as insulin resistance builds. But when insulin resistance goes down, does this set-point decrease as well? Is it harder to decrease it than increase it?

After the science, my second favorite thing about fasting to lose weight and improve health is its simplicity. It appeals greatly to the sloth in me to be told that 95% of weight loss depends on diet (and only 5% on exercise). It is wonderful not to have to cook. Or clean up after meals. Or think about what to eat. Or shop for it. Modified versions with “eating windows” are simple too: eat 1-2 meals between these hours and never at any other time in between. How easy is that?

Another thing I love about this diet: I have enough fat stores to see me through a week-long backpacking trip. How wonderful not to have to pack anything to eat. Or a trip to one of these tropical islands with over water bungalows and exactly one severely overpriced restaurant. I can go for week-long vacations and never have to worry about eating! I’ve never before been so pleased about my fat stores. Finally, they’re useful for something.

My solution to “chub rub”

If you have no idea what that term means, good. You can continue reading in morbid fascination or cut your losses now. This post was inspired by a similar one from a blog I follow.

Okay. It’s not similar. My solution is a bit different and doesn’t involve anything that can make anyone any money. What’s that? Fasting. A friend recently recommended The Obesity Code, and I finished reading it within 3 days. It’s written with the repetitive lilt of a science popularizer, but the content explains the strident mantra of the “Fat Acceptance” movement, that diets don’t work. While it’s true generally that your body adapts to any increase or decrease in caloric intake by increasing or decreasing energy expenditure, that just means that diets in the traditional sense of the word (i.e., caloric restriction) don’t work. But intermittent fasting does. The book cites only research done on humans, and on significant numbers of humans. Fasting has been shown in study after study to have a variety of health benefits, including lowering insulin resistance and yes, weight loss. Plus, it’s the simplest diet I’ve ever heard of. Having a chub rub problem? Don’t eat food until your thighs no longer touch. I’ll include a link at the end for those interested in trying intermittent fasting.

I find this interesting because I’ve subscribed to a variety of myths about metabolism and weight loss which have been busted by this book. Here’s a sample:

“You should always eat breakfast” — this is based on a survey of people who achieved long-term weight loss but is only a correlation (no proven causal link).

“You should eat many small meals and snacks throughout the day to boost metabolism” — there’s no evidence that this boosts metabolism more than having fewer larger meals, and there is clear evidence that this eating pattern contributes to insulin resistance (which causes fat gain).

“If you fast you’ll go into starvation mode and/or destroy your metabolism” — actually the opposite is true. Metabolism goes up during a fast. Note that this is different from caloric restriction: in that case metabolism does go down to adjust to for lowered intake. In the case of fasting, the body switches to burning fuel reserves (fat) instead.

This wasn’t meant to be a glib response. I’ve had the chub rub problem myself and used to buy in to the learned helplessness of fat acceptance. While I’m new to fasting, I have tried the Atkins approach (or generally low carb, high fat / ketogenic approach) with success, losing about 16% of my body weight last year. I don’t get chub rub anymore. Definitely a cheaper, simpler solution!


Intermittent fasting for beginners

Fasting myths

Signs you’re renting from a slum lord

I’m exaggerating. A little. But these are details that indicate a lack of care from the landlord. Be sure to look out for them before entering into your next rental agreement.

Things don’t work

This door leads to the patio. It is impossible to open it from inside the apartment because the wood was not properly treated to be exposed to rain. It has bloated stuck and grown mold. Before you rent, test everything: drawers, doors, switches, cabinets — everything.

Unfinished or strange structural features

What is that box? Why is there a gap between wall and ceiling? Why is there molding in parts and not others? What is the cut out square in the top left? I have no idea. But all of these indicate shoddy workmanship and shortcuts taken in construction. If this is how the property owner chooses to do construction, chances are they won’t be providing quality maintenance of your unit either.

Worn fixtures

How much does it really cost to replace light switch covers between tenants? Especially when they’re worn like this?

Unprofessional paint jobs

I’m not saying you need to pay to have a professional-looking paint job. You just have to know what you’re doing. In particular, moldings shouldn’t be painted the same color. Paint also shouldn’t be slathered on so thickly its drips harden into permanence.

Deteriorating flooring

Linoleum is the bane of my existence. Linoleum that is peeling is even worse. I hate to think of the horrors that live under there. Flooring that is damaged should be replaced before renting to a new tenant. Keeping it like this is a slumlord move.

Uneven floors or ceilings

The landlord/owner didn’t even want to splurge on an actual architect. How much do you think they’ll spend on your maintenance issues?

Leaking plumbing

The plumbing is fine, but it’s clear to me that this rotten portion between the sinks should not have been made of wood. Water pools there — obviously it will rot through and leak under the sink. The landlord’s solution? Paint over this part in beige! When we toured the apartment, the mold was completely painted over so we didn’t notice.

Duct tape fixes

This should be the biggest red flag. Who thinks duct tape is an appropriate fix? A slumlord.

Random holes and stains on walls

Units should at least be re-painted between tenants. Holes should be caulked. Random wires should be removed.

Individually, these issues may be small or even quirky, but taken together, they indicate a level of neglect that could mean you will have problems getting your landlord to adequately address any maintenance requests. Or worse — you could be moving in to a place with vermin problems. Aren’t you glad I didn’t post a picture of the mouse friend I’ve seen running around on the patio?

La Maison des Cariatides

Or, my first Michelin starred restaurant experience.

I had a long debate with myself about whether it would be worthwhile to eat at a Michelin starred restaurant. For me, it was always going to be about the food and nothing else, as long as the “else” wasn’t so atrocious as to be a distraction (think of the decor or service at the average authentic Chinese restaurant run by average authentic Chinese people). In the end I let it boil down to a simple test which you can try at home. Blindfolded, can you tell what color gummy bear you’re eating? If not, the experience probably won’t be worthwhile for you because your palate can’t tell anyway. If you’d be just as happy at KFC, why bother paying extra?

Here are some pictures from my experience at La Maison des Cariatides. It’s housed in what looks to be a centuries old building with statues at the second floor and carved bust detailing in the window arches.

This appetizer was not on the menu. Deep fried cheese with a sweet and sour sauce.

The 4 unopened eggs were not for eating. N asked. This one tasted like a creamy bacon mousse.

The sauce on this scallop was made from roasted hay. It enhanced the flavor of the scallop without overpowering.

Neither of us knew beforehand what “Ris de veau” was. The texture reminded me of brain, but it turns out to be glands. I don’t think I’ve had glands before. It seems the grilled part extends deeper than just the surface, and of course, the grilled part is my favorite part.

This might not look like much, and it might not be fancy, but these are the best creamy, cheesy mashed potatoes I have had in my life. They’re probably 50% butter by volume.

See this nice waitress offering us a cheese course? I had some of every cheese. If you do that in France they consider you a glutton. Whatever. Worth it.

The first time I recall enjoying anise flavor. The dust is an anise powder on a white chocolate wafer. Which the grapefruit sorbet wore like a little hat. The refreshing fantasy of every summertime beachgoer.

The presentation on second dessert seemed haphazard to me, but I was just so pleased no one was trying to get me to eat flowers or foam that I didn’t mind so much. The cigar looking bit had this smoked flavor.

This wasn’t on the menu either: a bonus 3rd dessert of Paris-Brest.

Overall, an amazing first experience at a Michelin starred restaurant. I thought it would be more formal and stuffy than it was. I didn’t notice anyone wearing anything dressy. The atmosphere was upscale but comfortable. Perhaps because this was in France, not the U.S. — but other patrons seemed to be there just as a regular meal: not a special celebration or event. I’m told that it’s not nearly as common for the average French person to indulge in a sit-down restaurant meal as it is here: that if they do, it’s going to be seriously about the food and not about getting full fast. So in that vein, that probably means there are not as many “mid-range” restaurants between quick kabob type places and places like this.

I loved that there was serious care and consideration put into every dish, but no push to challenge or over-decorate. The dishes were whimsical, but no one expected me to eat ants from a skull.

Would I do it again? Sure, in a heartbeat. This experience has also inspired me to avoid mediocre dining experiences, if only to save up for places like this instead.

Mental decluttering

I’ve done a decent job over the last year decluttering my apartment with guidance from my bible (more on that here). But now that I’m done distracting myself with tidying, I’ve found that it’s my brain that’s cluttered with minor annoyances that keep me from accomplishing anything useful. Usually this causes me to rant to anyone who will listen, and that’s even worse because now I’m wasting someone else’s time too.

Basically, mental decluttering is a formalized version of the Serenity Prayer. Here’s what you do.

First, identify pointless trains of thought. I know, easier said than done. For me, these usually come from minor annoyances throughout the day. For example: a double parked UPS truck blocking the road. I get irritated and start fantasizing about policy changes like meter maids following UPS trucks around and giving them a ticket each time they stop. If it’s a deep dive kind of day I even start pondering what the fiscal implications of this would be and how UPS might respond by producing ad campaigns showing sad children who didn’t get Christmas packages on time to sway voters. Right. So. How to identify a pointless train of thought? Ask yourself “Is there anything I can do to change this?” If the answer is “No” or “Only if I put in a lot of effort that I’m unwilling or unable to commit” then it’s a waste of your time to keep stewing over it.

Now that you’ve identified the pointless thought, you’ll have to find some way of distracting yourself from it. Here’s where it gets fun. You could try:

Having a to-do list. When you see that you’re obsessing over something useless, do something from the list.

Read. Read things from your reader, or keep a book handy. I don’t know about you, but I never regret time I’ve spent reading.

Treat yourself. Positive reinforcement for identifying and distracting yourself from going down the rabbit hole. Do this enough and you’ll associate positive feelings with breaking away from pointless obsessing.

Ignore. Sometimes it’s not a solo act. Maybe you have friends that you go back and forth with over politics or policy. Maybe they have opinions you can’t stand and you feel the need to “call them out” on it. It’s a waste of your time. You probably won’t ever convince that person they’re wrong. But eventually they’ll see that no one is responding to them and stop saying the same things over and over. Any response only lengthens the amount of time you’ll spend thinking about (and being annoyed by) it.

Screen saver. I like the idea of keeping a few pleasant thoughts or memories at easy grasp to function as “screen savers” of the mind. To free yourself from brain clutter, hold on to a few of these that bring you joy. When you find yourself getting worked up over something you can’t fix anyway, think about one of these things instead. Maybe it’s a memory of your last beach vacation. Or your cat purring on your lap. Or something completely made up involving vampires and unicorns. Is this a better use of your time? Maybe not, but at least it doesn’t take up as much mental energy and it’s not as bad for your mood. Plus, once you get bored of the beach, you’ll have distracted yourself from the annoyances enough to get on with something else useful.